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Dian Wilson's avatar

I have an epic story that I may never feel comfortable revealing publicly, although I'm sure it would make an empathetic companion for those suffering from sexual abuse. I say it is epic because it spans my lifetime. Even at 63, I am terrified of mentioning by name those people who felt it was their right to probe my body inappropriately before I was of the age of "consent". The general public knows most of these men to be "fine Christians" and "upstanding citizens" in their communities. I'd be willing to bet 80% of them identify as "conservative" if not MAGA. I've thought the terror comes from something ingrained in me that feels I must protect them and others around me. But I realize in this very moment, it is ME I am protecting. This is a big part of this problem: a lack of people willing to come forward. The social stigma is so great. To tell the truth is a very scary thing. I do hope there will be justice for victims known and currently unknown. They've risked so much just speaking up.

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Indeed, the accusation has always BEEN, the confession. For those of us who've been perpetually "online" in one form or another for 30+ years, it started showing up years before 16. There was always that one "crusader", who would describe in graphic detail what he was gonna do to these "pedophiles" and etc. I always thought it was kinda weird, these are, after all, aberrant thoughts, that should not be rattling around in normal people's skulls, not without a damn good reason.

Nor do normal people talk about torturing other humans, irrespective of their behavior, but I encountered them all the time, back before YouTube and elsewhere, really started censoring that sort of stuff. My reaction was always to think, 'why's this childless guy, so concerned about this?' I mean, it's kind of a weird thing for Joe Random to be obsessively worried about.

It kind of made me believe they were setting themselves up an excuse to go looking for it, llike a pre-alibi for having a hard drive filled with CSAM. The last ten years, seems like all that stuff sorta came to a head, and have proved that suspicion correct, if nothing else. I don't think these folks truly grasp, how guilty it makes them sound, accusing people of something like that, with absolutely no basis.

It always does, homophobia seems to hold a similar function. I had a friend in high school, in the 70s, who was vehemently "phobic", always with the slurs about this one, or that one, which seemed a little "off", like, why do you care? Well, turned out after a few beers with another friend one night, I'll just say, he was less "against", than "for" lol. It's always a tell, it seems as though LE has decided it's a tell also, if the number of them I see being arrested, with that stuff posted all over their social media of late, is any metric. What's surprising to me, is how little reaction from all corners it's getting, given the social climate around pedophilia for the last 20 years or so, I'd have thought a mob with pitchforks and torches would have materialized already. Hopefully the above tally will start to change it....

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